‘It is always by way of pain one arrives at pleasure.’ Marquis de Sade
I believe this to be true, but I don’t believe the main attraction is the pain or bondage. Those things are the catalyst that will propel the individual to their ultimate pleasure which I’d define as knowing someone has complete control over you, deciding what you’ll do, hear, touch, taste, smell and feel. It’s this kind of catharsis that brings the coveted euphoria.
Meh, don’t worry. I’m not going to go all Freud on the topic, I just think it’s interesting that some people literally have to be tied up to be truly free. Anyway, *shakes self* where was I?
Oh yeah…
I want to talk about bondage as it’s a simple and tangible action that draws out a very emotional or intrinsic response. By being restrained, held captive and corralled, an individual’s choice and reason is removed from the equation. Intellect is powerless to war against long repressed desires. Quite simply, the individual is free from the self that has held them back.
This aspect of BDSM is what I love to explore with my characters. Bondage that actually opens the mental prison cell of an individual, freeing this person, which ironically leads them to the most poignant sexual epiphany they’ll ever experience if it’s done right. It’s the how to do it right that I focus on because there is a lot that can go wrong if you’re not paying attention. Communication is the key. Honest communication no matter how embarrassing.
This is why I say bondage is good for the soul. It allows you to bare that soul to your captor/dominant/lover and when that trusted person embraces this most precious part of you there’s no feeling more empowering in the world.
Just my .02
Riley
Psst!
This part below was added (by me, moi, Riley, Murphy, Riley Murphy or you know, just: Yo! Crazy lady! Whatever you choose to call me I’m good with it) Point is? Now that I have a new shiny blog, I’m reading some of my old articles and I realize I’ve got a few more things to say about certain topics. With that in mind (insert me rubbing my hands together here) let me share what I learned, discovered and/or changed on the topic with you. :D
And here it is in a smaller nutshell. Sometimes you need to be unable to do what you normally do to find the different that would have escaped you if you’d been free. Makes perfect sense.
In my newest story, LAND ME my hero Xendare and his heroine find their perfect different together when she answers an ad for his new business venture. A bank owner dabbling in part ownership in a BDSM cruise line, and a woman who’s a jack-of-all-trades…or so she thinks, because the fibbing about being a submissive to this powerful Dom’s needs could be disastrous. <-- It would be if someone else was writing it, but it’s Riley, who guarantees a happily ever after with a whole pile of laughs along the way. (Unless you read my straight erotica-literature stuff then it’s all bets are off on the HEA and full-steam ahead to very intense sex where the only one that’s happy is…? Yeah, none of your business. That’s what I say about it. I also say, if you’re one of my female readers your husband and/or significant other might like it. Maybe. Warn them though.
Riley’s rating scale on that collection?
0.0 <-- Shock >.< <-- I cannot look 0.0 <-- Yes, I can. Oh, my!
Why do I need a rating scale with this one you may ask? Simple. I was thinking I should write a triple X story and before you know it, I thought, meh, let’s triple the triple X on that. Slinks away...
As always, thanks for stopping by!
Riley